I post on here about 6 months ago and said I was tapering my Suboxone... I initially started out at 12 mg/d and have made my way down to being at 3 mg a day the entire last month. Today I'm going to 2 mg/d. Last month when I dropped from 4 to 3 I noticed some definite changes... I am in sales at work and live and die by my motivation (which has been lacking) And I find myself crying a lot. I actually went and saw a pink Floyd cover band about 2 weeks into my drop and cried almost the entire concert 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️. I know this is doable and I want to be off of this crap for good- What can I expect in this cycle of dropping down? How close am I guys? I'm trying not to future trip but I know that once I get down to about a half a milligram a day I'm going to have to look at jumping for good. What can I expect at that point?

OMGGGGG everythings been going so amazing my hard work and effort are finally paying off IM OFFICALLY DOWN 18 POUNDSSSSSS!!!!
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so like i made a post a while ago about how i was going stagnant for almost two years and slowly gaining because i got my height wrong but om im just soooooooo happyyyyyyy YAHHHHHHH RAHHHHHHH CONSISTENY FAITH AND DICPIPILNE NEVER FAILED MEEEEEEEEE!!!!!
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im just so happpy and exited ONlY 65 MORE POUNDS TO GOOOOOOOO!!!!
also for some reason my dad tried to insistet that i'm only slightly overweight???? like im l not obese???? i know i carry it all "well" its mainly in my thighs and booty does anyone relate? alsooo i was hoping to get a second opinion on my goal weight i heard 125 would be ideal im a 5'5 female at 15 years old? alsoo i totally wanna rant about how i got fat for a bit so i was always a skinny healthy little kid then i had to move in with my grandma for a bit and she had these really yummy mexican sweets and i had like 3 a day i was like nine years old and thoses things were like 600calories each AT THE LEAST and with additon i always got adult sized plate to eat off LIKE THE BIG ONESSS and i wasnt per say forced to eat it all but it felt wrong wasting food so i sat down and ate adult rotions and lota or cookies and cearal for like 2 year while i was living with her and on top of that time altho i ws the happiest little girl it was objectivly awful i gained 80extra pounds in two years and on top of that i had really bad lice the entire time and nobody really taught me about hygiene so i wouldnt shower or brush my teeth i woulnd brush my hair or even change my underwear and nobody told me why i had to when i asked it was awful i wish i had somebody there to teach my that stuff i was just a stupid kid i didnt even know why i had to wash my hands i litterally had a wart on my hand because i didnt know better it was awful i just know i smelt so bad somtimes i wonder how i even had friends i was definetly the stinky kid but i guess my personality was enough to shine through?? hats off to me i guess thx for reading lol :)

Since today is my 14th birthday and almost the 1 year anniversary of my Reddit art career, I want to tell you guys the origin/story of how I became a Reddit artist. This might be a long read, so take as much time as possible to read. Please enjoy!
Part 1 - The Beginning The time was around September to August, and this was when my Reddit account was only a couple of months old. This was also the time I started talking to people like u/fozzie_79. At that time, we had only known each other for barely a few months. We only really talked about SMG4 stuff and things about Melony and Meggy. Eventually, I came up with an idea that will change everything. Before all of this, however, I had a severe obsession with big, poofy dresses. For example, Ariana Grande's Grammys dress, the 2015 reboot Cinderella dress, etc. For a while, I have always considered them as "quinceanera dresses" (the dresses Spanish girls wear on their 15th birthday), since I thought that was the formal/professional name for these ball gowns. So, here was the idea: what if I drew Meggy wearing a big quinceanera dress? I told Fozzie about this, and he LOVED it. So, I then drew her and posted it to churchofmeggy. (You can still find that post on the subreddit btw ;>)
Part 2 - The Early Drawings After posting my first drawing on churchofmeggy, it blew up like crazy. Everyone loved it, and that made me feel really special. So, as a result, I wanted to draw more "Quinceanera Meggy" drawings. This included her twirling, jumping, going into the pool, sitting, "paraskirting," etc. Those drawings blew up as well. (These drawings can also be found and are still up on churchofmeggy)
Part 3 - Going to SMG4 After my posts starting blowing up on churchofmeggy, I then got a suggestion from Fozzie himself. That suggestion was that I should drawing on the official SMG4 subreddit. I really wanted to do it, but I was too scared. This was the official sub, and I don't feel too ready to show off my work on SMG4. Eventually, I got the courage, and drew my first ever drawing on this subreddit: Meggy, Tari, Saiko, and Melony all wearing quinceanera dresses. I was expecting the worst to happen, but surprisingly, it got really popular. A lot of people liked it and made me feel so satisfied for what I done. From that day on, I wanted to do more. I wanted to continue drawing on SMG4.
Part 4 - The Infamous Challenge When it came to what I actually wanted to draw on the subreddit, I had to think really hard to make a creative idea for my drawings. However, I got a brilliant idea. Since at the time I wanted Luke and Kevin to notice my artwork, I made this infamous challenge idea that lasted for months: "Day _ of drawing smg4 girls in quinceanera dresses until smg4 himself makes it canon." From that day on, I have made daily drawings of the girls wearing many dresses, just hoping that Kevin oand Luke recognize my artwork.
Part 5 - The Takedown The time is around November, and I am at least a few months into my infamous challenge. Everything is going great as usual, and my popularity is going off the charts. However, one day when I posted a drawing, it then got taken down by the mods. I was confused, but I was too concerned about it. I thought I did something in the drawing that was considered inappropriate to the mods, so I decided to make my drawing more kid-friendly. Yet the same thing happened, it got taken down. I was even more puzzled, so I messaged the mods seeing what is going on. In response, I didn't get a reply back at all. I was pretty furious and I didn't know what was going on. Eventually, the mods came out with some new rules for the subreddit. These rules included things like no WIPs and that kind of thing. The big problem with this is that these new rules went against my drawings, which was why they were being taken down. So as a result, I had to stop the challenge. There was no other choice.
Part 6 - The Advent Calendar After doing some drawings that were now unrelated to the challenge, the time is now December. Again, I wanted to do something fun, but not like what happened with my previous challenge. I then talked to Fozzie for any ideas what I should do. We brainstormed for a good while until I came up with a nice idea. This idea was known as the SMG4 Fanart Advent Calendar. The idea itself was pretty simple: for every day of the 25 days of Christmas, I do a daily drawing that is both Christmas related and SMG4 related. Fozzie accepted this idea, and I was pretty happy about it. From now on, I was going to do Advent Calendar drawings until Christmas is over.
Part 6 - The Burnout This happened around halfway through the Advent Calendar, and it was extremely painful. While I was doing a drawing, I suddenly started to feel very stressed and exhausted. It then came to a point where I couldn't control myself and I was basically having a mental breakdown. So with all of that stress going through my head, I posted the incomplete drawing. I then explained in the comments section if I should take a break from drawing after doing them for over 100 days straight with no stopping. Thankfully, everyone was very concerned and caring for me, and told me to take a break. And so I did. I took my first ever break from drawing, and I have never been any happier. This break went on for over 2 weeks.
Part 7 - The Return This is now January of this year. I have returned from my long and caring break in the form of a drawing. Everyone was very kind and welcomed my return to drawing. Now I am back at work, and I can do my drawings again. However, I want this to be different from how it was before. I now want my drawings to be done at least every week or so, so I can prevent the burnout incident from happening again. And since I got many art kits this Christmas from my grandfather, I also wanted my drawings to be more higher quality than they ever were. And from then on, I went by my new rules to make sure I am better than how I was.
Part 8 - Popularity Skyrockets After posting a drawing of Meggy being Chell from Valve's Portal, I have gotten a ton of attention. The post got over 200 upvotes, the mods recognized it, everyone was posting comments, etc. After such a big skyrocket, I have realized something. After posting some sketches of Meggy and Melony wearing cute, poofy dresses, those also blew up. I realized I am now popular. I am getting the attention that I always wanted since the beginning. I have became a true Reddit artist. My miracle has came true.
Part 9 - Medi After doing many more successful drawings after my miracle, something incredible happened. After posting my drawing of Meggy wearing a poofy green dress, I have received a notification. The notification said that Medi had followed me on Reddit. Yes, you read that correctly. Medi, one of the editors on SMG4, is now following me on Reddit. That isn't the best thing though. In Medi's video explaining the criticism of SMG4, at the end of the video, he showed off my first ever drawing I had posted on SMG4. This means that my true dream came true. SMG4 "technically" notice me. All of my dreams have came true, and I have became a TRUE, true Reddit artist.
That is my story of how I became a Reddit artist. I really want to thank u/fozzie_79 for everything he has done for me, and being the true reason why I have became the person I am today. Thank you Fozzie, and thank you to every single one of you.
I love you, guys. 💙
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I’m brand new to poly lifestyle so bear with me or help me learn and understand better. First off I am in USA/Midwest. Looking to start things here or online and just see where things go from there. The main things I am looking for iniaitally are 1) at least somewhat of a mutual attraction physically 2) Someone who chats/messages daily several times. I’ve had bad luck apparently, where I meet someone great and they’re only here 1-3 days then ghost.
I have been having a really hard time finding women I vibe with. I feel there is nobody who is into trans women physically and I am losing hope. So yes, I am trans pre-op, but I am quite femme. Pics to show and see if you like - just ask!
I am loving, confident, fun, silly, outgoing, caring, compassionate and I will do anything I can to please my partner. I am a caregiver by choice in my career - registered nurse. I love to care for others and I love opening up and offering myself to others wants and needs.
I am open to anyone 20+ as long as we can vibe. I feel like I often have a younger attitude as I am trying to relive my college days in a way I am sad I missed out on. About me: I am a registered nurse in an emergency room, my hobbies and interests include fashion, video games, shopping, traveling domestic and international, I love cuddling, Netflix/entertainment in general, and fantasizing about how amazing life would be if I were more beautiful. I have 3 sisters and come from a pretty conservative family. I can’t stand Donald Trump and no I don’t need any negative messages about why. If you are a Trumper please refrain from messaging me. I tend to have sexual desires, fantasies, and just daydream about dates and things I wish could happen. I can also totally refrain from this is if this is nothing you’re interested in but I wouldn’t mind having a BFF 👯‍♀️ to share experiences and secrets with. I think a relationship is best started as a friendship then grows, so let’s just chat and see where things go.
I love pets but don’t have any of my own, taking care of myself is a big enough responsibility 😆. I have plenty of other interests and would love to make friends or more seeing if it goes that way. If you want to be friends or just think I’m cute let’s chat 😘 I am definitely on the femme side of the spectrum and I find myself more attracted to that type as well. Typically not into butch but please don’t let that deter you from messaging me. I am open and willing to share pics. Just to keep you curious, for now I’ll just describe myself.
5’9”, blue/gray eyes, 160lbs, glasses, cute smile, great butt slim/average body, hair style changes pending how I’m feeling.

Hi. I am a 17 yr old girl. I have posted here quite a bit asking my questions about true Christianity. I have been going through this stupid cycle for years of "trying" to be saved. I'm normal, a sinner. Then some catalyst thought pops up in my head, I try to go to God and I immediately try to stop sinning and I try to seek God but I think that for some reason I can save myself, or if I sin again in not right enough to come to God, I stop trying to stop sinning, I got right back to business as usual, and the cycle continues. I'm being honest as I can here because my faith is everywhere. I don't know if I believe in god or not, and I really don't take the bible as seriously as I should. It's hard to describe but I can't just go back to business as usual knowing that this earth is finite, and I will have my little life on earth, however long that is, and then I spend an ETERNITY either in heaven or hell. I know that choosing God is the right choice, that it would be better for me in the extremely long run, but for some stupid reason, I keep "trying" to be saved. It makes me jealous when I see people so easily coming to christ and humbling themselves and realizing how sinful they are and sorrowfully repenting, and then there's me. These other people walk right into it, and I'm still trying to make a key for a gift box. And I know I'm to blame, which is why I'm making this post. I'm extremely prideful and self righteous, even though God can literally do whatever he wants, he could squash me like a bug and just keep on going. I'm sick of trying but I don't know how to not try. I can't not try to be saved, and it's just, terrible. I don't want to spend my ? years on earth going back and forth between the world and God just to burn in hell while god's people are literally living the perfect life. I want to choose God but my body is weak. And I have a bad habit of self pity, being like "oh, Jesus why can't you choose me?", Even though I know that God is not the problem, it's me and a hard heart. I have prayed for it to be softened, to be live other people when they're saved, humble and contrite but I honestly don't feel bad. I know it's horrible to say but I'm being honest here and I need help so I will feel true contrition. I can pray that I want to leave this world all day but who am I fooling? I love sin like everyone else. It feels good, but I know it's hurting me. I honestly want to say "I give up" but I don't want to go to hell. I don't know know what I want. Please help me, pray for my pride and self righteous nature to be killed because I can't do it myself. And I don't know how to trust in Jesus so easily. Thank you for your time.

I'm not a usual reader , i have only read around 10 books including fiction and Non fiction, I read the man's search for meaning long before, but somehow i feel like this is the only book I've read that was worth reading, I mean i want something that will give me an existential Crisis, something that will f*** my brain, Something that can affect me that will last forever. I'm not saying i want specifically life changing book , but rather a life altering book. I want to feel challenged , i want to feel angry, i want to explore the boundaries of my consciousness and see how far i can stretch my thin fabric of self.

In The Legend Of Zelda: Breath Of The Wild, and The Legend Of Zelda: Tears Of The Kingdom there are quite a few structures, story elements, and characters that do not match up. This could however ironically be what helps piece the timeline together.
My theory is that at some point before BotW takes place, time itself has been corrupted. I’m not sure wether that would be the Tri-Force, or just Ganon somehow corrupted time itself. If it is the Tri-Force, that would explain why it is almost never seen in BotW and TotK.
Think about it. How else could there be a Hyrule in which so many contradictory elements exist? How would the Zora and Rito exist in the same timeline? How did the Forgotten Temple end up in the middle of nowhere? Why is Rauru not a human like in previous games? Why are there two Temple Of Times?
None of this would be possible if the timelines were in tact.
My only real question is how did time become corrupted? Did Ganon get his hands on the Tri-Force without anyone knowing? Maybe the Tri-Force we see in the final boss battle in BotW is only the Tri-Force of Wisdom, which would mean Ganon could posses the Tri-Force of Power. I’m not sure how power can change time, but it could have caused something that led to time corruption.
With this theory, we can assume that BotW does indeed bring the timelines together, in a corrupted manner. No one actually realizes the corruption though, because everything that came before BotW was way before any of the characters in BotW exist. Totk can help prove this theory even more, as even more stuff does not make sense. How else would random items, and armor from old Zelda games be hiding randomly underground?
In short, sometime before BotW, time got corrupted, explaining why everything in BotW contradicts the timeline.

Preface: My dad and I have a cordial but superficial relationship. We've never been super close because he is that way with everyone. I don't discuss many personal topics with him, especially anything sensitive or political. We don't live in the same state and I talk to my mom often, but not so much to him. (He's grouchy) He went into the hospital recently and I've checked in on him several times. This is the first thing I've heard from him in weeks...
A RANDOM, UNPROMPTED EMAIL:
Hello ------! We don't get to have real conversations very often, and with so much going on that is understandable. I did want to convey to you something that is hard to talk about. I know we are not always on the same side of things, as an example abortion rights. But that was not always the case. There was a time I was pro abortion but a phrase I say to Mom a lot is "Life is a constant state of change". How we think, our perspectives, our priorities are part of that change. Compare your self to when you were 18, and how you feel today. For me, life, all life, has become more precious when you have so little of your own left. Changes will continue for you, you may feel completely different about some things, or even stronger about others but changes are coming. After all, "Life is a constant state of change". I Love you and am very proud of you. You are intelligent and independent and a loving Mother. No difference of any opinion will ever change that!
Love, Dad
I don't know where this came from and it makes me angry because are a THOUSAND other things he could reach out to me about???
Also, what exactly is he even trying to say? What is the point?
I'm having trouble responding because I'm confused and mad.
Thoughts?

• I’m on mobile
• I’m spitting word vomit

I’m going into my junior year with a 2.5 gpa. I know I’m smart and retain knowledge easily but the way my school teaches and how the curriculums changed is making it hard to show that.
After covid schools in my district have been more mental health and feelings focused, Which doesn’t work for many classes like science, history, and math because their facts based. For Ela and Writing it should be a positive because it’s so easy to just say something about how a lone tree represents this character’s mental state. That’s what I used to be able to do but the new Ela teachers have created such a tight box around all the assignments with prompts that are so specific to their beliefs and opinions you have to be them to understand the questions.
When people tell me about Highschool before covid it sounds like a paradise. Extra credit assignments, questions based on what you learned and not what you thought, teachers having to follow a actual curriculum. I would cry tears of joy if that’s how it was.
It’s also how students behave. Everyone is so socially awkward and says things that aren’t okay to say in public but no one’s able to correct the behavior that 2 1/2 years of not socializing did. However most students strive in the environment being created on the down side no one’s learning anything. ( I have know kids in my class with As and Bs who can’t describe photosynthesis. How does no one see the problem)
Our schools had several teachers quite for this new guide and rule set (no like out of 60 teachers about 25 have been working pre covid)
I’ve been looking at art and animation colleges that I like and see peoples recounts saying it’s about experience and not grades and to focus on my portfolio. That eases my worries since my art grades are phenomenal and my teacher for my out of school program say I shouldn’t worry so much and I don’t need college to be successful in a creative field. But I want good grades nay I need my academics to reflect my love for learning
Side note: - I will never be good at math (PEMDAS my love) but I do know how to keep a steady B average

• I was in advance classes up until covid (my second semester in 7the grade) then I moved states and parents so something got miscommunicated along with online classes being so new it was easier to just put me in normal classes.
  
• I hope I don’t sound arrogant and snobbish I just know what environment suits my learning style and change is not easy for me.
  
• I’m very open to advice in fact I’m begging for it.
  
• I’m eligible for and 504 plan because autism but I don’t want that.
  
• Thanks for reading
  

My wife has been hounding me for years (pun) about getting a dog for the family. My response was always when I am dead and gone feel free to do as you wish. Its not that I do not like dogs I just know how much work they are and the complexities that surround them. You are asking yourself what the hell does this have to do with the HL community?? Well about a month or two ago we started to get to a better place both in the relationship and the bedroom. Little acts of kindness and spontaneous fun etc etc. Things started to feel like the days of old with going out more, spending quality time together and intimacy that actually felt genuine. So about a month ago my wife sends me a picture of this pup that was a year old and fully trained great with kids and other dogs seemingly a great fit. So I am thinking to myself I cannot put off the dog thing forever and I said sure we can look at her. Unfortunately that pup was taken by another family and then the pursuit hit high gear. Her pursuit became some sort of obsession and she roped the kids along on the journey so everyone was excited (almost everyone)
Long story short somehow we ended up with a 11 wk old puppy (basically like adding a newborn back into your life). Our ability to go out GONE, Our summer plans GONE, our ability to spontaneously do anything GONE, our love life GONE. She now spends each night by the puppy instead of in bed, no more plans to do anything as a family since someone needs to be home with the pup. Now I am being led to feel guilty when I am going out to do anything because she is tethered to this new puppy. This puppy is also forcing us to change a summer vacation we had booked as a family now that isn't happening.
I should have held firm and stuck to my guns and said EMPHATICALLY NO! I felt this could make things better but in fact it has made things much worse for our relationship (at least in my eyes). This reminds me of the people I speak with that are having issues and they think adding a child will solve things it doesn't it only adds more stress and strain.
I am a little pissed at myself for having this moment of weakness and saying yes. I deep down knew exactly what was going to happen and it is unfolding just as I thought. I am so fricken tired that I have zero desire for romance, sleepless nights, lots of added nonsense and a partner that is no longer available has me feeling like I am single again.

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Hi, I'm about to start a small personal project, and feel like it requires some deeper research as I'm clueless to the best way to approach it or stuff to keep in mind or plan beforehand that would be handy down the line. The task would be a character whos body can change, become smaller or bigger, as well as change the perceived age. The characters hair is also able to morph between lengths, on top of which it can be moved and articulated as if it were a moving body part like an arm.
This would need to be possible in animations and I'm wondering what the best way would be to approach such a character and its quirks to make the production more streamlined and the animation/post more compatible with the produced model.
My personal thoughts were initially whether to make it in one model that is build to be able to be deformed as needed, but that poses many rigging questions especially for the hair, or to make a couple separate ones that each represent one extremity of the body morphing, which I'm clueless on how to transition between for the animations. But as I'm still a beginner I'm most probably unaware of the many tricks and solutions one could use for this type of problem. This is why I have turned to the community in hopes of learning from the experience of others and better plan out the production phase of this project.
Thanks in advance to anyone who would take their time to reply.

Friends,
On behalf of the /ffxiv mod team, let me just begin by saying this is not the kind of announcement we'd like to be making. Over the years, we have generally shied away from using the subreddit as a bully pulpit except for in extreme cases such as the fight for Net Neutrality. Unfortunately, time is of the essence and this is likely to affect the majority of our community here let alone across the entirety of reddit.

What's happening?

API Pricing Changes
Reddit recently announced major pricing changes to their API, which is the software interface that all major 3rd party applications and bots rely upon to function. These pricing changes are so extreme that all major apps will be forced to cease operating as they cannot bear the costs. As an example, the developer of Apollo revealed they would be forced to pay reddit upwards of $20 million USD/year just to continue operating under the new pricing scheme.
The consensus from the developers behind these apps is that reddit is trying to price them out of existence in order to force users to switch to the official reddit mobile app. Not only will they be forced to pay ridiculous sums (which they cannot cover) to maintain access to the API, changes to the ToS also prohibit these apps from using ad revenue to offset the new costs.
You can find some of their statements below:

• Apollo
• Reddit is Fun
• Relay
• Narwhal
• BaconReader
• Sync

NSFW & Mature Content
In addition to restricting API access behind a ludicrous pricing scheme, reddit is also planning on severely restricting 3rd party applications' access to NSFW/mature content. This will not only make the job of moderating NSFW communities significantly harder for humans, but also largely cripple 3rd party moderation bots that rely on being able to view NSFW content across multiple subreddits. Without the functions these bots provide, reddit is creating massive vulnerabilities in the areas of anti-spam and user safety.
As an example, some communities which focus on serving underage users may use 3rd party bots to automatically detect and remove accounts with a history of posting NSFW/mature content. Additionally there are other 3rd party bots that use comment history to proactively seek out and remove NSFW spam or even help detect and remove possible revenge porn or illegal underage content.

How will this affect me?

Any users who rely on 3rd party applications (like those above) to browse reddit will find that the apps will cease to function after July 1st, when the pricing change goes into effect.
In addition, NSFW communities will likely see a large uptick in spam and potentially illegal/harmful content. It's possible that many of these communities will be forced to close if the human moderators responsible for them feel they can no longer keep their community safe without the proper tools these bots and 3rd party apps provide. Even subreddits like ours have to deal with a steady influx of NSFW spam, so these changes could have ramifications for the entire site.
While it has never been explicitly stated by reddit, there is also a large concern that this move to consolidate mobile users to the official app could be a sign that they are planning to fully deprecate the old version of their desktop site (old.reddit.com) in order to consolidate users on the redesign as well.

What can we do to stop this?

Moderators from hundreds of communities across reddit have drafted and signed an open letter to reddit, asking them to reconsider the pricing scheme and to recognize the role that 3rd party apps have played in reddit's ongoing success. You can read the open letter here:

• /ModCoord: An open letter on the state of affairs regarding the API pricing and third party apps and how that will impact moderators and communities.

Should the open letter fall on deaf ears, many communities are also preparing subreddit blackouts in protest. This type of protest has been used to great effect in the past, however it is also highly disruptive to the communities participating.
As the mod team for this great community ^btw, our primary goal is to make sure we are serving you all to the best of our ability. We feel strongly that this is a worthy cause and that the outcome will have a massive effect on the future viability and success of the entire platform. We want to join the 500+ communities that have already committed to this action and demonstrate that our community answers the call in times of need.
However, we won't do it without you. The decision to blackout the subreddit should not be made by the mod team alone. Please share your thoughts, ask your questions, and let us know if you feel this is something we should be a part of. The mod team will do our best to answer any questions we can and we promise that any action we take (or don't) will be based on the will of our star community.
Respectfully,
The /ffxiv mod team

Can someone tell me how to make the light the sidelights when I change the Profile(Like the integrated memory)
i hope someone understands what I mean with that(and sry for my bad Englisch)

Community Focus

As moderators we've seen this community grow quite a bit for the last few months! With this comes increased requests, more community engagement, and friendships.
One issue we want to address is the focus of our subreddit. As we think about the future, we want to make sure that we keep our requests and focus on romance books primarily, since the purpose of the subreddit is to discuss books in the romance genre. To do this, we'll be creating an Erotica Requests weekly post, which will serve as a space for people requesting erotica and specific sex acts.
What is erotica?
To define erotica for our subreddit: A piece of fiction that focuses primarily on sex, where the plot is secondary and serves the sexual content within. Unlike in genre romances, in erotica a HEA/HFN is not required.
Some examples of this within the MM book community: Hedonist by Roe Horvat, HonoObey by DJ Heart, Taking the Knot by Sean Michael, Upending Tad by Kora Knight, and Knotted by the Wolf by Anna Wineheart.
A book having a lot of sex or having kink content does not make it inherently erotica -- what matters is whether the focus of the book is on the romantic relationship and getting to a HEA/HFN, or not. We realize the line may be blurry (especially with books labeled erotic romance) and we ask that people use their best judgment in the cases of recommendations.
What does it mean to make a request for a specific sex act?
"Request for specific sex act" means a request that can be read as "when the characters have sex, I want them to do X" and where that's the main thing the requester is asking for.
This would not include something like a general request that the book contain explicit sex, for example. It isn't meant to sweep in any request that mentions sex, just requests where the point is to find a specific type of sex scene.
Why make this change?
Our subreddit has always welcomed discussion and recommendation of erotica, kink, and taboo content. The purpose of the new post isn't to say that erotica content is "less than" romance or that it's unwanted here, but just to make it easier to know if you're requesting or recommending erotica (which, as mentioned above, doesn't always have a happy ending or feel like romance), since lots of book requests for romance wouldn't really be satisfied by an erotica recommendation, and vice versa.
Additionally, requests for specific sex acts come up pretty frequently, and many of them are so specific that there aren't many books that fit. A lot of these also wind up being repeats, and any time something is a repeat, people are less likely to reply to it. Putting these requests into their own weekly post where they don't have to be as specific or unique as a standalone request should help people to find what they're looking for, and will hopefully help people get more replies.
We're also hoping that having this new post will help people who are primarily interested in requesting and recommending erotica or specific sex acts know where to look. If you're an erotica-focused reader, a lot of the posts in the subreddit won't be what you're looking for, so you might not visit the subreddit as often and could miss some good stuff. With the new weekly post, you'll know exactly when to check the subreddit for the content that interests you.
This is similar to how we have scheduled posts for queer fiction and other MM media (though the Erotica Requests post will be weekly instead of monthly).
These changes do not mean that you can't recommend erotica, that kink romance books aren't allowed, or that this community is veering away from discussion of NSFW content. Instead, we are hoping this will create a curated space for erotica where erotica lovers can find the books they want, and will make it clearer when requests and recommendations are for erotica vs. genre romance.

New Weekly Post and New Rule

This change will be implemented in the form of a new rule (rule 11) and a new weekly post.

• Requests for erotica and specific sex acts (as defined above) will now need to be asked in the Thursday weekly post, Erotica Requests. Standalone requests for erotica and specific sex acts will be removed, and users will be directed to the Erotica Requests post instead.
  • Like in the Less Scary Request Place, requests made in the Erotica Requests post don't have to meet the specificity requirement of subreddit rule 2.
• Erotica and erotica recommendations are still welcome in response to Book Request posts, but please label your recommendation as such, so that people reading your comment know that the book falls into the erotica category and not the genre romance category.
  • We know that this might be hard to do and will be pretty subjective at times, so this portion of the rule will be gently enforced with reminders/questions to people about whether the book qualifies as erotica.
• This rule only affects Book Request posts (both the request itself and any replies). All other post types are unaffected, and you're welcome to keep posting about erotica books in places like the Weekly Roundup and all of our other scheduled posts, as well as any discussions posted by members (and discussion posts about erotica are still welcome as well).
• The mods will be paying close attention to how easy or hard this rule is for people to follow, so we can figure out if adjustments are needed. The goal is to help everyone know where to ask for and find specific types of books, not to punish people for miscategorizing things.
• Relatedly, we've updated Rule 2 to clarify that requests for strict top/bottom dynamics or that a particular character tops or bottoms do not qualify as specific request criteria. Some other element of the request has to satisfy rule 2. So requests for "extremely frequently requested thing, but please reassure me that my preferred character tops or bottoms" will now be removed. These requests can be made in the Less Scary Request Place or the Erotica Requests post instead.

The first Erotica Requests post will go up next Thursday, June 8.

I finally understood why I was suffering from dpdr, this happened when my therapist confronted me with the following. He mentioned that everything I was trying to do to, cold showers, no coffee, no alcohol, sports, vegetarian diet, no porn etc etc, are all external factors, but that dpdr is a symptom of trauma - which is not only a memory of the brain, but also a memory of the body (!).
A bad trip from drugs (a traumatic experience by itself) often preceded by trauma such as loss, abusive childhood, being bullied, divorced parents, maybe all of it, or some of it, it is stored in our bodies. Even if you are not or barely thinking about it anymore, the event lives on in the body in the form of stress, grief, pain.
And trauma comes in all kinds of ways, it doesn’t have to be postwar ptsd - a car crash, an immense fight between your parents at a young age, maybe losing your job or a dramatic breakup. Whether you felt unsafe, hurt, unloved, unwanted, frightened, something happened inside your body, it caused a wound. Most of us don’t learn how to cope with our inner wounds, so subconsciously we suppress the pain as life goes on and we have to perform. But our brain keeps fighting against the event(s) that keeps on living in our bodies.
Suppressing leads to split off feelings, dpdr (!) as it’s impossible to selectively filter positive and negative feelings, you either feel everything or suppress everything.
Dpdr is a symptom, which has it’s functions for survival (frightening, yes), but you can overcome through help.
Essentially we need help from a therapist. Through mine I learned how to dig into my nervous system, and activate unresolved trauma - the result, lots of crying, shaking, urges to yell and intense sensations, but then finally relief.
And it makes so much sense. If a nerve is squeezed in your vertebra, you can accept as much as you can but only once your physio cracks your back, you may be able to find relief.
In a way your brain is stuck in a similar way. It is registerring stress, unresolved grief and anxiety that’s stored in your body. In order to survive it finds a way to shut it down, but it shuts everything down, your feelings, sensations, all kinds of stimuli.
But once your to start to heal, flush the stress, cry and process the pain, your brain will notice and will get back in to relaxed modes.
What kind of therapy helps? For me therapy that focussed on the somatic side of things. Eft, emdr, psychotherapy - techniques that dig up deeply stored anxiety and stress (even if you can’t feel them at this very moment, belief me, it’s still there).
It is KEY to embrace everything that needs to be seen and felt. Cry out loud, yell if needed, talk about it. I’ve felt so blank and fake that I never thought to find a way out. Focus on your body, move you awareness through your body, embrace your frustrations, and observe your thoughts instead of identifying with them all the time.